Do you ever find yourself blurting something out before you think about it? Saying something that you know may be hurtful and not helpful? Imparting your “wisdom” when it isn’t needed or wanted? I have to say that I do all of the above at times. But I am practicing a new strategy “pray it before you say it.”
Here’s how it works… When I am tempted to say something that may be hurtful and isn’t beneficial in a situation or interaction, I pause and say a prayer. “God, help me to hold my tongue and speak only if it’s helpful, necessary, and kind.” This is encouraging me to parse out words that may be angry, hurtful, or negative. And to focus on sharing words that build others up instead of tearing them down.
The Bible is full of advice on why we should be slow to speak. Here are just a few examples to consider:
“…Be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry.” James 1:19
“When words are many, sin is not absent, but he who holds his tongue is wise.” Proverbs 10:19
“She speaks with wisdom, and faithful instruction is on her tongue.” Proverbs 31:26
“Do not let any unwholesome talk come out of your mouths, but only what is helpful for building others up according to their needs, that it may benefit those who listen.” Ephesians 4:29
“He who guards his lips guards his life, but he who speaks rashly will come to ruin.” Proverbs 13:3
If you have trouble holding your tongue at times, give it a try!
I really needed this reminder in this season of my life, Leslie!
I, too, love to give advice. It’s usually with good intentions to help them. But if they haven’t asked for my advice, they rarely take it. I’m learning to ask if they want advice first before I waste my breath.
Oh, how easy it is to let the words slip right out! I’m guilty of this and need to practice thinking and praying before speaking. Great message!